Coffee Talk #3: Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the greatest things to aspire to in life.

   All the way I grown up, I make a lot of mistakes, and I beg for forgiveness. It sounds easy to open your mouth to beg for forgiveness, but the one you begging for, sometimes s/he is truly hurt by you, and s/he might need a lots of effort and strength to forgive, s/he needs to to step forward with a big step to accept your apology.

   Forgiveness is like a key that brings you and your family and friends together, and you gain a better relationship with them.

   Forgiveness is a part of life for human, we all make mistakes, we are being careless sometimes, it's not anything surprising. If we ask for forgiveness in this kind of issues, others will too. So, just forgive and forget.

   

   And you know what? Sometimes we will feel regret for not forgiving. So, why you let yourself feel regret?

   Maybe you will feel unworthy and do not have the willing to forgive those who had cheated you or did some cruel acts to you. You may feel they do not deserve your forgiveness, as they might had deeply hurt you, it's normal, we are human, we have feelings. But have you ever think, all those madness and angers will always follow you, they hide in the deepest of your heart. You will not feel happy, when there is always a corner that keeps on reminding you of your sorrow and anger. Remember, forgiveness is about forgive yourself too. Release yourself, for a healthy and cheerful life.

REMEMBER,

   You have so much to gain by forgiving the person who wronged you.  Anger is a poison and by letting it go, you are opening yourself up to so much good. 

We are all full of weakness and errors; let us mutually pardon each other our follies.
-By Voltaire

Loves,

Chris ❤

Shoulder Length Up Do: Side Bun

   I never good in styling my hair, I'm not talented, hah! I just know how to tie a pony tail, and I know how to braid, but it looks kinda weird.

    

   Long and short hair is easy to style and maintain, but when comes to shoulder length, my hair drives me crazy, besides pony tail. I got no idea, and normally, I'll just leave it or simply make a messy bun and I'm ready to go.

   But when comes to a party or special occasion, I was like OMG, and I'll spend my whole day to do something to my hair, I tease, I spray, I comb and even iron my hair. But every time end up by washing my hair and blow dry, just let it hang on my shoulder (just like the picture above).


Well, and today, I finally got something new! A SIDE BUN ❤

   I have bangs with me, but normally while I'm not going out, I'll clip it a side or pin it up. Kinda messy huh?

This is the final look ❤

   I pull my hair to a side, and bobby pin it. Then twist it to a bun and pin it with booby pins, use as much to secure the bun. If you have a lot of baby hair 'standing straight up', you can use a hair spray to 'tame' them, haha!

   I know it seems easy and tons of blogger have show it before, but this is my first 'BONAZA' ❤

GOOD LUCK =)

Loves.

Chris ❤

Coffee Talk #2: Break Ups

Have you ever been through a break up?

  If you have, you will understand that there is no simple way to go through a break up. especially for girls, girls are much more sensitive than guy.


  Me for example, I'm not a rational person when come to love or handling break up and argument. Every time after a break up or fight, I'll cry like hell, tears running non-stop or hide myself in my blanket all day long without food and water. But, when I bring myself calm to face all these problems, means I had step out and step up.


  Break up is awful to me, it's like pulling out my soul from my body, feel like missing something important. We might feel our heart empty, we might feel like our life is meaningless, but yet we still need to survive.
  
  How to over come a break up? As break up is different for everyone, so there are tons of way to over come. Some choose to travel, some choose to hide it in the deepest of their hearts. And some says shopping may heal their broken heart. 

 In my case, I'll make myself busy, never let my mind blank and never let my hand free. I read, I do laundry, I renew my blog, hang out with friends. I will arrange tons of entertainments and matters to fill all my spare time. It may not be the best way, but these are what I did, they works. But before I sleep, I'll think of him, again. 


  But girl really need to be strong to step over. Wipe your tears off, be calm, and think about you family, your friends, you future. they are all along with you, you are not alone.


TIME IS THE BEST SOLVENT, time will dilute all the sorrow.

錯過的愛 通常也是愛的過錯

戀人最常犯的錯 就是讓愛失衡

有人因為太愛對方 而失去自己

有人這因為太愛自己 而失去對方

Loves,

Chris ❤

Coffee Talk #1 : Long Distance Relationships

THEY ARE STRONGER! 
Yes, they are.


Have you been through a long distance relationships? 
I had, more than 2 years. Me and partner had been through a lot of difficulties, arguments and jealousies. But I learnt trust, space and respect, it really bring a lot of time and tears to learn. 


About tears, I really cry a lot. We argue a lot, but some fights are very trivial and unnecessary. During an argument, I'm the one who non-stop asking or blaming, and he is the one who always keep silence and listen. But after a fight, we shiver for couple days. When I cool down, I always realize that his silence is for a reason not to fight with me. He is the cool one, I'm the irritable one.
One good thing after a fight is, we know each other more!


During long distance relationships, we can't hug each other, we can't hear each other, we can't be with each other while one another needs a shoulder to lean and yet we can't celebrate special dates (especially valentine's) together. We will be lonely for sure, but it's only for temporarily. Life (Love) isn't perfect, is it?


Long distance relationships sure will be hard, much more difficult than your partner is just right beside you. But have you ever think, long distance relationships train your trust to your partner, respect each other, and even love other much more than before. 


Distance is a challenge for all couple, no matter you are both in different countries, different states or different cities. 


For those who can't go through all those difficulties, perhaps they notice they are not meant to be together, or each of them have found another part of them. It sounds upset at the end, but at least they notice their problem soon enough.


Am I the lucky one? No one knows, it depends on how I run my relationship, how I control my temper, hah! (I have a very very bad temper, and I'm very impatient!) 


I always ask myself,
I can't even manage my own problem, am I ready to handle a relationship (a man)?
There are tons of things that I need to learn.


All the best for those who having long (short) distance relationships. Be patience and be smart while handling your partner. We sure need loves and forgiveness & patience from your partner, so be fair to your partner, you both need the same thing as you need.




We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails.




Loves,
Chris ❤